10 May 2004

[poogie]

This question is from Loreley =)

What scares you the most?
/P

[Dissectica]

Hmm...

I'm not afraid to die, not to be alone, not to fall in love or not to achieve things in life....and the list can go on like that. I guess the only thing that really scares me is that if people I care for get hurt, or die. Sometimes even when thinking about that...I get really scared.

Another thing that scares the shit out of me is spiders, so totally afraid of them. There are a certain kind of spider that is even worse then the rest and it's called "Lockespindel" in sweden. Boy, do that one hit the most selfdestructive button inside me!! I cannot simply find the words that express the fear I feel when I see this kind of spider, this forum would certainly not have enough space for that. Let's just make the statement that I can't really handle the situation very well.

I'm kind of afraid of ghosts too..long story to that, not gonna tell it  

[Ahriah]

Losing my daughter....by far #1 fear.  Being a nurse doesnt help.
Every little cough, Every little owie I think twice about it. Coult it be tetanus, Cystic Firbrosis, Lukemia, Im completely paranoid when it comes to her. The hardest thing is letting go. Telling myself she won't get a concussion on the play ground, that its just her; being a little girl when she does flips on the jungle gym, or that sneezing is normal, not necesarily the end of the world. Everday I am thankful that she is seemingly a normal little girl

Outside of my daughter I have two fears

Dying or being in a really really bad accident
and Failure

Ahriah

[Ahriah]

Car accident...I meant .... I have seen the trauma Cars can cause...I know that other forms  of transportation can kill or maim you, But cars scare me the most, since so many people seem to take it lightly. And I have lost serveral close to me from them.

-Ahriah

[Carrion]

Definitely that something bad should happen a kid of mine. I just can't believe I would have even one day without crying after something horrible had happened to one of my boys

[Jose]

Getting old and rusty.
 To end up doing something i realy dont like.

[Qwer]

Diseases. More than death, I think.
It's too much to say that I'm afraid but I do feel a bit uncomfortable in the dark sometimes, especially in spooky unknown places. I am not really afraid but it's just an unpleasant feeling.
I'm afraid of dogs. I wasn't till I was like 12 or 13 years old and some dogs attacked me, 4 big dogs, I couldn't even run as I didn't have a single tree around or something. It was really scary, I was very cool, looked around and saw I can't run so I just looked at the dogs and waited as they kept coming (they were guarding some herd of sheeps).
As they arrived to me, the first (biggest) jumped on me, but just got my arm and I was wearing some clothes so didn't manage to bite me. I have jumped over them and ran to their owner, an old man who was coming there with a rather low speed, yelling, but his dogs didn't care about him. I got there in safety and as he sent his dogs back I managed to leave.
This dogs are pretty big, couldn't say, like 2 feets high, perhaps some more? Couldn't say.
So, I'm now afraid of almost any kind of dogs especially when they're without their owner. We got some of these 'homie' ones in Romania, unfortunately; way too many in some parts of some cities, I could say.
I saw in the TV once that some 60 years old man was attacked and killed by dogs, they eat half of him until someone noticed and scare the dogs away or something.

[Kadagar]

Oh please... How can someone not fear dying? Fine, I can understand how someone that is 90 years old might think that he has lived his life, but when your in your 20s? Bullshit.

[Yavathol]

Oh please... How can someone not fear dying? Fine, I can understand how someone that is 90 years old might think that he has lived his life, but when your in your 20s? Bullshit.

I guess it's all a matter of perspective.  I know I used to be afraid of death, but when you've had to make peace with your own mortality it ceases to be scary.  That isn't to say that I, or anyone else who denies fearing it, would readily embrace it at this point but simply that it doesn't hold the fear that it once did.  It's part of the growing process to come to terms with ones own mortality.

Having said that, I suppose it is readily apparent that I am not one of those who can list death as a real fear.  For that matter, I can only think of one thing that actually does cause me fear and I won't list that here since it would seem so irrelevant anyway.  It's not a phobia or some thoughts about how horrid an experience such and such would be.  If I had to pick something to put here that would cause me quite a bit of discomfort to go through, the only thing I can think of is becoming "locked in."  A rather horrid fate to be sure, but I already have the papers drawn up in case of such an eventuality - see, Death is not something to be afraid of, it is part of the cycle of life.

I can remember having other fears, but as I have been forced by life to face them...  I guess they cease to have that power.  Fears area  very personal thing, we all have very different fears and will respond to those fears very differently.  Those fears and our reactions to them will also change.  Non-parents can not even imagine the fear of losing a child.  Our lives will continue to shape us, and that is the very essence of living, of Being.

And, as a side note, why is it that only someone in their 90s should be able to say they have led a full life?  I have a long way to go till I am even middle-aged and think I can say I've had a pretty full life.  Granted, there's a lot more I wish to accomplish and see and do, but I have had a full life so far.  

"The term Human Being is rather unique in that it expresses action even though we tend to think of the whole phrase as a single noun.  To live is to be a Human in the process of Being."

[ladychris]

Death and major deseases, both on me than on ppl  i care for.
From what i read up to now it seems it is a fear most of us share.

Another thing that managed to make me frantic is when someone misses to contact me and I have no way to contact him/her, let's say I'm abroad and noone answer the phone when I phone home. This really scares me to death. It is not just the non-answering, if i have a way to check what happened (a neighbour for example) it doesn't really matter, i remain quiet and dont even use that opportunity most of the times, but if there is not such a possibility then i get into an awful state, no matter how many reasonable explanations there may be, I just thing of the scariest ones.  

[eris]

Loss of a child. Absolutely.  There are no words and I won't even try
to find them.

In other matters confrontation is probably my biggest fear.  My heart
races and I avoid it at all cost.  If I think someone will be upset,
hurt or yell at me...bad stuff.

But then again I'm a big chicken about quite a few things.

/Eris the yellow

[Moonchild]

Alzheimer's disease.

Knowing that your brain is slowly decaying and you'll soon be incapable of thinking properly or looking after yourself...ugh.

[Asarnil]

Being buried or Cremated alive....

*shudder*

[Qwer]

Dying in many ways, of course. If I would know that I'll just fall asleep and never wake up, that's a nice way to die. But there are many horrible ones, I guess.
I wouldn't like to be hanged, drowned, cut into pieces alive, being eaten by ants alive for example.
Dying by a shotgun or being decapitated, for example, it can be a pretty quick way so I don't fear that as much as some other ways of dying.
Of course, I find it too early for me to die as I haven't accomplished like anything important I think, being too busy about everyday problems, like a job, a place to live, food etc. I can't consider my so-called carieer an accomplishment as I'm not better than other millions fo people, I guess.
So I'm just still waiting for something interesting to come.

[Ahriah]

Alzheimer's disease.

Knowing that your brain is slowly decaying and you'll soon be incapable of thinking properly or looking after yourself...ugh.

Or....how about

ALS DISEASE

ALS (Amyotrophic Lateral Sclerosis), also known as Lou Gehrig's Disease, is an incurable fatal neuromuscular disease characterized by progressive muscle weakness, resulting in paralysis. The disease attacks nerve cells in the brain and spinal cord. Motor neurons, which control the movement of voluntary muscles, deteriorate and eventually die. When the motor neurons die, the brain can no longer initiate and control muscle movement. Because muscles no longer receive the messages they need in order to function, they gradually weaken and deteriorate.

The initial signs of ALS may vary. Symptoms include stiffness and increasing muscle weakness, especially involving the hands and feet. The disease eventually affects speech, swallowing and breathing. Because ALS only attacks motor neurons that control the body's voluntary muscles, patients' minds and senses are not impaired.


Losing all motor function, and not my mind...