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If you could change something in your past, would you? If so, what would it be and why? If not, why not?

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There are many things that I've done that I am ashamed about.  But I do not regret them for I have learnt from these mistakes and am now happy where my life is and where it is heading.

No, take those past mistakes away and I'll only end up doing them again.  And perhaps worse, set off a chain of events that end me up some place worse than where I am now.

This is a difficult one, as you can never know what will change in the future if you actually could do something about the past... But that aside, I would definitely want to change a lot of stuff I've done in the past. Really all the times I've been mean in some way, without a real reason. Not that I've BEEN that mean, but sometimes you do the occasional slip and voilá, you have something to feel bad about...

I would change some things I can do about.
I would also try to change some things that happened and I didn't trigger 'em.
I would also try to change some stuff about someone I care about and his life got pretty much changed, and not in good, and at that moment I just didn't do anything, the lame kido I was who couldn't realise what's coming. He's okay, but could be doing way way better now knowing his potential, I'd say.

So, the answer is YES.
I wouldn't feel comfortable to say more, sorry. Pretty personal stuff.

PS: There are some things that break and you can't do much about them later. If anything could be fixed, I'd be very happy, but this is RL.

I'd like to say I live my life with no regrets; learn from mistakes
and move on.  I believe that is true and a healthy way to live.  When
my four year old gets hurt because of a foolish decision I ask her,
"What can you learn from this?" To which she normally replies *shrug*.
I suggest a possible lesson, she normally shakes her head in refusal of
said lesson, and I reply "Well then I guess all you got from that
experience was a bumped head/scraped knee/(insert other malady)."
Guess that is neither here nor there...

Having said that, there is one time in my life where the outcome was
good for me, but the way I went about achieving the outcome I wanted
was hurtful to another.  If I could go back and achieve the same
outcome without hurting the other person I would do so.

The lives of others are a different story.  There are many things that
have happened to those I love that have hurt them very deeply.  If I
could change these things I would; consequences be damned.


/Eris
A little long winded today.

By looking back i can see how some decision i took could have changed my life, but I'm not sure it would have been for the better, so I don't think I would change them.
That doesn't mean i am totally satisfied with what i have now, there are some things i would be happy were different, but they didn't depend on me (at least I dont think so), it was luck, or fate or karma or how do you prefer to call it, so i dont see how i could ever change them.

I agree with Carrion though, i would be happy to change every thing i did that might have hurt other ppl, too bad you dont usually realize the consequences of what you do :)

There are so many things in my life I wish I could go back in change. I would like to go to the doctor at age 11 or 12 when my depression began and figure that out then so I wouldn't waste so many years of my life not knowing what was wrong with me and being too tired to even wonder why I slept all the damn time.
I'd want to go back to college, my first year in the university, and actually go to class, do well, get that degree. It would have been a bit easier had I known about the depression then and if I was being treated for it.
I'd also want to go back and not hurt the people I've hurt. Most of them have been unintentional but there have been quite a few that I've hurt because I was hurt and mad and I didn't care at that moment.
Unfortunately fixing all these things would result in my life being completely different and I couldn't do it unless I knew that I would still have Nick in the resulting new life. I wouldn't want him to end up anywhere else. I may not be the best mom out there, not even close, but no one could love my son more than I do.
So for me it would have to be like that episode of Star Trek: The Next Generation where Picard gets to go back and change something in his life and see where it leads. I would have to know the results at least to the present point in time. Beyond that we can never know what to expect and we shouldn't.
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No, I don't think I would like to change anything in my past casue I would not know where I might have end up today if I did change the tiniest little thing. I'm not really a determinist as this may sound like, but I do believe that everything I have done so far, including all my big mistakes, has formed the way I am today. That doesn't mean that I'm perfect today, maybe another me would have been better, but I can't really compare things like that...so the answer is no, I don't regret any choice I have done so far, since I guess they all formed the one I am today.

Ah. Turn back time. If I only could do that. Most people seem happy about who they are. Well, I'm not. So I would be happy to change a lot of stuff in my past that shaped me into what I am. Shure, it could have gotten worse. But I think I would have taken a chance. The stuff i would change are mostly decissions and ways I was thinking in. Many people also seem to want to take back stuff they did that hurt people. I'm on the contrary. Probably sounds terrible. But now, I wish I was more ruthless, letting my instincts guide me instead of trying to find some lousy moraly good path in my life that in the end didn't leed to anything :-P. Well, it did leed to one thing, to who I am, and I already answered what I think about myself :-P

No, since I got my daughter I wouldn't want to change a thing, risking undoing her as she is ... and now that I have her, I wouldn't want to change anything fearing I would somehow change our relationship.

Exceptions of course, to change things last week, or the other day ... as it would have no obvious ramifications.

I would have never gotten married.
Ever.

I just simply wish I had taken hold of more opportunities when growing up, I let a lot of things pass me by and I regret that.

carpe diem...

If I could change anything in my past? No, I would not. Why? Just because of this reason: My past made me to who I am today, and mostly I am proud of who I am. Of course I have sides  I am not so proud of, but then again, who does not have sides they wish they did not have? People will have to like me for who I am, not for what I could be. So why regret the things I have done? The things I have learned? That _is_ what made me, me. And that is not all bad..  :wink: