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What scares you the most?
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Hmm...

I'm not afraid to die, not to be alone, not to fall in love or not to achieve things in life....and the list can go on like that. I guess the only thing that really scares me is that if people I care for get hurt, or die. Sometimes even when thinking about that...I get really scared.

Another thing that scares the shit out of me is spiders, so totally afraid of them. There are a certain kind of spider that is even worse then the rest and it's called "Lockespindel" in sweden. Boy, do that one hit the most selfdestructive button inside me!! I cannot simply find the words that express the fear I feel when I see this kind of spider, this forum would certainly not have enough space for that. Let's just make the statement that I can't really handle the situation very well.

I'm kind of afraid of ghosts too..long story to that, not gonna tell it  :twisted:

Losing my daughter....by far #1 fear.  Being a nurse doesnt help.
Every little cough, Every little owie I think twice about it. Coult it be tetanus, Cystic Firbrosis, Lukemia, Im completely paranoid when it comes to her. The hardest thing is letting go. Telling myself she won't get a concussion on the play ground, that its just her; being a little girl when she does flips on the jungle gym, or that sneezing is normal, not necesarily the end of the world. Everday I am thankful that she is seemingly a normal little girl :D

Outside of my daughter I have two fears

Dying or being in a really really bad accident
and Failure

Ahriah

Car accident...I meant .... I have seen the trauma Cars can cause...I know that other forms  of transportation can kill or maim you, But cars scare me the most, since so many people seem to take it lightly. And I have lost serveral close to me from them.

-Ahriah

Definitely that something bad should happen a kid of mine. I just can't believe I would have even one day without crying after something horrible had happened to one of my boys :(

Getting old and rusty.
 To end up doing something i realy dont like.

Diseases. More than death, I think.
It's too much to say that I'm afraid but I do feel a bit uncomfortable in the dark sometimes, especially in spooky unknown places. :) I am not really afraid but it's just an unpleasant feeling.
I'm afraid of dogs. I wasn't till I was like 12 or 13 years old and some dogs attacked me, 4 big dogs, I couldn't even run as I didn't have a single tree around or something. It was really scary, I was very cool, looked around and saw I can't run so I just looked at the dogs and waited as they kept coming (they were guarding some herd of sheeps).
As they arrived to me, the first (biggest) jumped on me, but just got my arm and I was wearing some clothes so didn't manage to bite me. I have jumped over them and ran to their owner, an old man who was coming there with a rather low speed, yelling, but his dogs didn't care about him. I got there in safety and as he sent his dogs back I managed to leave.
This dogs are pretty big, couldn't say, like 2 feets high, perhaps some more? Couldn't say.
So, I'm now afraid of almost any kind of dogs especially when they're without their owner. We got some of these 'homie' ones in Romania, unfortunately; way too many in some parts of some cities, I could say.
I saw in the TV once that some 60 years old man was attacked and killed by dogs, they eat half of him until someone noticed and scare the dogs away or something.

Oh please... How can someone not fear dying? Fine, I can understand how someone that is 90 years old might think that he has lived his life, but when your in your 20s? Bullshit.

I guess it's all a matter of perspective.  I know I used to be afraid of death, but when you've had to make peace with your own mortality it ceases to be scary.  That isn't to say that I, or anyone else who denies fearing it, would readily embrace it at this point but simply that it doesn't hold the fear that it once did.  It's part of the growing process to come to terms with ones own mortality.

Having said that, I suppose it is readily apparent that I am not one of those who can list death as a real fear.  For that matter, I can only think of one thing that actually does cause me fear and I won't list that here since it would seem so irrelevant anyway.  It's not a phobia or some thoughts about how horrid an experience such and such would be.  If I had to pick something to put here that would cause me quite a bit of discomfort to go through, the only thing I can think of is becoming "locked in."  A rather horrid fate to be sure, but I already have the papers drawn up in case of such an eventuality - see, Death is not something to be afraid of, it is part of the cycle of life.

I can remember having other fears, but as I have been forced by life to face them...  I guess they cease to have that power.  Fears area  very personal thing, we all have very different fears and will respond to those fears very differently.  Those fears and our reactions to them will also change.  Non-parents can not even imagine the fear of losing a child.  Our lives will continue to shape us, and that is the very essence of living, of Being.

And, as a side note, why is it that only someone in their 90s should be able to say they have led a full life?  I have a long way to go till I am even middle-aged and think I can say I've had a pretty full life.  Granted, there's a lot more I wish to accomplish and see and do, but I have had a full life so far.  

"The term Human Being is rather unique in that it expresses action even though we tend to think of the whole phrase as a single noun.  To live is to be a Human in the process of Being."

Death and major deseases, both on me than on ppl  i care for.
From what i read up to now it seems it is a fear most of us share.

Another thing that managed to make me frantic is when someone misses to contact me and I have no way to contact him/her, let's say I'm abroad and noone answer the phone when I phone home. This really scares me to death. It is not just the non-answering, if i have a way to check what happened (a neighbour for example) it doesn't really matter, i remain quiet and dont even use that opportunity most of the times, but if there is not such a possibility then i get into an awful state, no matter how many reasonable explanations there may be, I just thing of the scariest ones.  :(

Loss of a child. Absolutely.  There are no words and I won't even try
to find them.

In other matters confrontation is probably my biggest fear.  My heart
races and I avoid it at all cost.  If I think someone will be upset,
hurt or yell at me...bad stuff.

But then again I'm a big chicken about quite a few things.

/Eris the yellow

Alzheimer's disease.

Knowing that your brain is slowly decaying and you'll soon be incapable of thinking properly or looking after yourself...ugh.

Being buried or Cremated alive....

*shudder*

Dying in many ways, of course. If I would know that I'll just fall asleep and never wake up, that's a nice way to die. But there are many horrible ones, I guess.
I wouldn't like to be hanged, drowned, cut into pieces alive, being eaten by ants alive for example.
Dying by a shotgun or being decapitated, for example, it can be a pretty quick way so I don't fear that as much as some other ways of dying.
Of course, I find it too early for me to die as I haven't accomplished like anything important I think, being too busy about everyday problems, like a job, a place to live, food etc. I can't consider my so-called carieer an accomplishment as I'm not better than other millions fo people, I guess.
So I'm just still waiting for something interesting to come. :)

Or....how about

ALS DISEASE

ALS (Amyotrophic Lateral Sclerosis), also known as Lou Gehrig's Disease, is an incurable fatal neuromuscular disease characterized by progressive muscle weakness, resulting in paralysis. The disease attacks nerve cells in the brain and spinal cord. Motor neurons, which control the movement of voluntary muscles, deteriorate and eventually die. When the motor neurons die, the brain can no longer initiate and control muscle movement. Because muscles no longer receive the messages they need in order to function, they gradually weaken and deteriorate.

The initial signs of ALS may vary. Symptoms include stiffness and increasing muscle weakness, especially involving the hands and feet. The disease eventually affects speech, swallowing and breathing. Because ALS only attacks motor neurons that control the body's voluntary muscles, patients' minds and senses are not impaired.


Losing all motor function, and not my mind...

Unfortunately I have a lot of fears and trying to get over them has never really worked.

I don't exactly have the fear of water, as long as I can see where I am. My eyes are ultrasensitive though and I can't open my eyes at all in water, not even in the shower. If I have goggles then I'm great. I'm not a superb swimmer but I can do okay when I can see.

I have a really bad fear of heights. This was rather amusing for my company in basic training because I got stuck on top of this 2 story high ladder type structure. *fear* Repelling and the confidence course in the Army didn't help this at all.

Another gigantic fear of mine is the same as all parents. I have the fear of something happening to Nick. I don't worry as much as Ahriah, especially because he's a boy and they do the craziest things (as most of you should know) but I cringe a lot as he does some of it. He has a fear of heights too and I hope he can get over it because I know it's not fun. He's also usually very cautious so I encourage him to be a bit more bold but the fear is always there.

The thing that scares me the most though is my own imagination. I've thought that I heard burglars many times in my apartment and in my parents' home. I have horrible nightmares and I worry about Nick a lot. I might have heard something really tragic about a child during the day and then my imagination will runaway with the thoughts of "What if that happened to Nick...?" The scary images that come to me when I'm in bed alone at night are the worst things and I can really freak myself out.

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ooo something in poogies post reminded me....When I was a kid I saw a bridge collapse with cars on it, ever since I have this odd fear of driving over long bridges, I can do it, but I get really sick and I drive like my grandma....Every year we take this trip to Muscle Shoals, AL and i have to cross the bridge over Joe Wheeler lake...no one wants to get behind me LOL

Oh I forgot my fear of heights... but thats a fobia i think, not a real fear, it is over as soon as I'm on safer ground. Anyway it really hinders my beloved hikings in the mountains, a couple of meters on a "exposed" path may make me change my trip completely.  :(

The cops  :mrgreen:

Don't do anything bad and behave yourself and you should have nothing to fear ;) They're like a dog..if they sense fear, they'll go for the jugular.

/Snafu :D

Now that's not true. I've seen quite a few cops harass innocent people because they thought they were doing the right thing. It's like those social services bastards. They spend so much time trying to find guilt in an innocent person that they let the people that are really harming their kids go. Freaking rediculous and I *HAVE* seen this firsthand.

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Hmm, I have to write snakes I guess.
I've had this dream a few times, in which I imagine that my bed is filled with snakes, and it feels totally real... each time I like throw myself out of the bed, and then there is a short while before I realize that there are no snakes. This is sort of odd, because I'm not that scared of snakes in real life. I respect them of course, but I'm not jumping in a lake or anything if I see one.

Being trapped in a crashing airplane, or any other situation when you are facing certain death, and got a few moment to "think", but are unable to do anything about it scares me I suppose.

I have only one fear in my life. As some of you pointed out already, it is the loss of someone close to me. If I am dying, I am okey with that. My life has been so full with stuff that it would fill up a lifetime of a 70 year old woman, so I am not scared to move on. But the loss of a dear one, that scares the **** out of me.

Ybbie

It's seems I really enjoy violate the law very often. But I want to say nobody gets hurt or somewhat prejudiced. (Maybe just my lungs)  :twisted:

Wasps ... which is of no surprise because when I was young, I accidently swallowed one and it stung me in the throat, from the inside.

My throat swelled to the point where I couldn't breathe which was extremely uncomfortable for me, and ever since I've had an extreme fear of wasps, but only when they get real close, up in my face.

Also I fear any sort of really small, really fast bug (the ones you could imagine run onto your foot, up your shoe and into the leg of your pants and disappear) ... while larger bugs doesn't bother me at all.

I agree with you, Kherec. I totally forgot about the small bugs. I do not fear them, but I get goosebumps and find them really disgusting. Specially, I do not know the english word for them but in sweden they are called 'Pappa långben', but I call them 'Flygande hästar' (flying horses).. They really gets to me..

*shiver*

Ybbie

'Pappa LÃ¥ngben'?!?!?!? Never ever heard that... Must be very regional, do you come from a farm somewhere deep in the woods Ybbie?

She's probably a 'southie' ;)

Being alone.

Not having anyone at all in this world to talk to/share stuff with kinda frightens me.

The very worst thing would be to die alone. To be lying in a hospital bed, or whatever and have no-one to say goodbye to, no-one to hold my hand etc. To know that there was no-one who cares about me enough to be with me as I die - now that's scary.

Ack, I've filled up writing this.  :cry:

Other stuff like burning to death and being buried alive also scare me.

Laysha. xx

The inability to help somone I really care about when they are in a bad situation.

I just truly despise helplessness :(

*gasps at Carrion and Kherec* You have never heard of them??? I, as the bigcitygal I am, have called them for 'Pappa långben' all my life.. You know, the bugs...the flying bugs, with long legs and wings.. they love to fly in the ceiling and making small annoying bouncynoices.. and they also love the light at night, the light from a lamp or something like that.. and when they feel like it, they fall down on my head and makes me jump 5 feet up in the air... *shivers with fear* They are truly the most disgusting bug I can think of....

You must know what kind of bug I am talking about right?? I mean, you must have some kind of education, no?

Ybbie

*looks at her note above* ... That was stupid.. all bugs likes lights in the night.. So ignore that.. but they still has long legs and wings and tiny bodies and are really annoying.. and I do not get in close combat with those things.. oh no.. A little story about how creepy I think they are: When living at home, with my parents and little sister, I had two of those in my bedroom at night. I could not sleep because of the bouncy noices they made. I went into my kidsisters bedroom, asking if I could sleep in her room.. 'Doh' she said, and went into my room, killed the bugs so I could go back into my room to sleep again.. That is how creepy I think they are.. getting my kidsister to kill them for me..  :oops:

Heh, you're talking about some sort of fly, right? But long legs and small body??? I really have no clue what you see when you're delirious :)

Delirious? Me..? Noooo... Not me? .. Well, since You still did not know what I was talking about, I called my daddy up to ask him for another word to call the bugs. He only knew the norwegian word for them and that is 'höyhest'. (The ö should be the norweigan ö, you know the o with a slash through it) .. But I shall not give up, I will find the right word for that bug.. Mark my words.. *nods surely*

Ybbie

Oh oh oh oh.. I remembered another word for them ... hope you know this one.. 'harkrank'?



Was browsing through the net and got to a sight about 'Harkrank', and it had a link to another sight.. where they are called 'Daddy long leg'..? Could that ring a bell?? I know a Daddy long leg is a spider as well, but if you imagine that spider with wings, and a slim bodyfigure.. that is a 'harkrank' ... sort of.. I think..


Ybbie, not giving up

You're afraid of HARKRANKS?!?!?!?!? That was pretty fun :) Yes, I know what a 'harkrank' is, and I think they are pretty neat!

Neat you say? Neat??? *shivers with fear*.. god, they really gives me the creeps.. No matter how tiny they are.. Goosebumps I get, and that is not from pleasure .. oh no.. not at all.. I shiver just by the thought of them..


Ybbie

Was just too curious and had to search for an image of a harkrank on net! *lol* we call them "pappataci" in Italy, quite harmless nice bugs ;)
Hey i remember some mosquitoes and black flies up there in the "fjalla" that would have made the biggest harkrank hide in shame ;)

Yes, 'harkrank' is the actual name for that beastly little, gross and pesky fly ;)

In northen sweden we call them "skrangelmygg" and indeed I agree, those are VERY nasty!!

Thank you, Dissectica and Kherec.. I am so glad I am not the only one thinking they are so nasty  :lol:

Ybbie

Death is natural and nothing natural should be feared.
Often when people talk about the fear of death it is actually fear of pain and mutilation.

What scares me is normal/ordinary people.

Normal/ordinary people is natural and nothing natural should be feared. Or?

Ordinary/normal people are unnatural.

People more natural than ordinary/normal is hard to find. By definition. You might try to advocate that people overall are unnatural, as they (we) seem to unbalance things a bit too much, but I don't think that's your angle. Right?

On the other hand, if you feel different, it's probably just because it's more 'interesting' to be different. In fact, most people, even those that think they are different, are very ordinary and common. And that's NOT something to fear. Some people, though, ARE different, in nature, and they should often be feared as they can indeed do unnatural things.

I myself am ordinary, just much better than most ;)